EPISODE #16 - Throw convention out the window
Convention = a way in which something is usually done.
Conventional is doing things the way in which others are doing them, the way in which the masses are, society implies you should… the ‘norm’
And I am here to say throw that shit out the fucking window.
And here’s why:
Doing anything simply because you think you should is never a good reason - It just feels like sh*t
Just because it works for others doesn’t mean it's what you want or what is going to make you happy. They key here is what YOU WANT. Not what others want for you…
In this episode I am sharing stories from my own life displaying how this has shown up & continues to show up, questions I ask myself and how I make decisions & do things the 'not so conventional way' (& why I am so much happier as a result!)
EPISODE #15 - One simple habit that has changed my life
One habit that has changed my life is journaling (aka writing sh*t down)
In this episode I am telling you why it has been so life changing for me, how I do it, when I do it... all the things!
AND I am sharing with you a HUGE range of ways you can incorporate this into your own life too with plenty of prompts you can use.
Journalling creates self awareness.
And awareness is the first step in creating change.
When I first came to the world of personal development I wasn’t aware I was in a pit of self-loathing.
Once I was blatantly aware of it, only then was I able to make a decision to change it.
Here is a link to the 50 journal prompts I mention at the end of this episode (free and no email required!): https://www.xenajones.com/journal-prompts
EPISODE #14 - F*ck Perfection
I’m a continually recovering perfectionist who fears doing it wrong & strives to do it right.
In this episode I am sharing some of the ways this shows up in my own life & in the lives of my clients.
We explore the link between perfection, people pleasing & worrying about what others think...
I am sharing with you the 7 ways I am maintaining my recovery status - ways you can f*ck up perfectionism in your life.
" Courage has no room for perfection & I want to live a bold & courageous life."
I'm sharing a book that helped me to better understand the role of perfectionism in society. AND I leave you with a way to challenge your own thinking around there even being a right or wrong way...
EPISODE #13 - Getting unstuck with my client Val Chaney
I asked one of my past clients and now friend, Val Chaney, to come on the podcast today & share her experience of what it's like to be coached and how she was able to go from stuck to thriving...
During our chat you'll hear just how hard she was on herself, how she was beating herself up & continuously feeling stuck. You will hear how she has really changed her own life & become incredibly happy & confident in the process.
Val was able to take charge of the ideas she had & start bringing her dreams to life by using the tools such as having your own back, redefining failure & getting clear on who her futures self is & where she is going.
Val is a beautiful example of the power of self discovery. She shares exactly what it means & how it looks to have her own back & talks about the future she is now in the process of creating & how she has made that happen.
Val is a true example of what is possible. From stuck to thriving! And she is sharing all the ins and outs with you here and plenty of great takeaways!
If you would like to connect with Val here are the links to her two businesses:
Guided day trips to her local national parks -
Leaving from Cumberland, Maryland and touring Shenandoah national Park near Luray, Virginia & Harpers Ferry national historical Park in Harpers Ferry, West Virginia.
These parks are within an hour and a half drive from Baltimore Maryland and Washington DC.
15 passenger van tours and private tours are available from summer through fall. Her first tour of Shenandoah national Park will be Monday June 28!
Contact her here: TheMountainsareCallingLLC@gmail.com
Life Coaching in Nurture with Val -
Taking clients for a 3 month options in surrounding areas of Cumberland, Maryland. Walk & talk it out in nature! Outdoor Options available on scenic walking trail on the Chesapeake & Ohio Canal National Historic Park.
Contact her here: NatureLifeCoachVal@gmail.com
EPISODE #12 - 10 Years single & the confidence to date
I was single for 10 years before I finally decided to date again.
I was busy working on me, or so I said...
There was truth in that AND I was also trying to rid myself of my own insecurities, doubts & fears so that I would then feel ready.
In this episode I am sharing with you 4 things that stand out to me as the reason that I found someone to share my life with and how I created my own confidence to finally get outside my comfort zone & make it happen.
I share the story of my very first date after 10 years and the hilarious ending and my lessons learned.
I talk about the difference in energy between thinking we 'need' someone in our lives, versus simply wanting to share our life with someone.
EPISODE #11 - Should-ing on yourself
Are you should-on on yourself?
Are you hearing yourself say things like...
I should have said this
I should be further along
I should have figured this out
I should really get that sorted
Should is a word that never results in feeling good.
In fact it leads to feelings of guilt & shame.
We are effectively telling ourselves we are bad or wrong because we aren't...
And it is a huge confidence killer :(
In this episode I am sharing some of my recent experiences of should-ing on myself
And how I recommend dealing with your pile of shoulds.
EPISODE #10 - Making decisions
I made a decision last week that has been on my mind for a while. It wasn't easy. I had plenty of fears, doubts & what if's come up and in this episode I am sharing all of it with you.
We talk about making decisions, what holds us back & I share with you all the 5 step process I use when it comes to making decisions.
Here is some of the topics we are diving into:
The reason we are afraid of making a decision is because we are afraid of experiencing regret.
There are no wrong decisions, only results we don't want.
Having your own back is crucial when it comes to making decisions & taking action.
Not making a decision is a decision NOT to do it, not to take action & move forward.
Making decisions based on the future you want & not for your comfort today
EPISODE #9 - Being more you will grow your confidence
Over the past year my self-confidence has grown significantly, and one of the things I really attribute to this is embracing who I am.
The more me I am the more I enjoy myself & my life.
When I try to be someone I think I should be, I edit and alter myself & the less I enjoy being myself & living the life I have…
The more I embrace who I am without trying to change myself the more my confidence grows. The more I embrace who I am the more success I create in my personal life & in my business.
In this episode I am sharing examples of how this has shown up in my life and how you can begin to embrace more of who you are.
Here is a link to the 50 journal prompts I mention during this episode.
EPISODE #8 - Worrying about what others think
Do you worry about what other people think? Do you find yourself doing & saying certain things to get people to like you? Or perhaps editing & altering yourself in the hopes that they will like you?
You are not alone my friend and this episode is for you!
We spend so much time thinking about & worrying other peoples opinions. We do so much to try and control other peoples opinions of us.
We even pretend and lie to get them to like us. But we can’t control other peoples minds.
'You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there's still going to be somebody who hates peaches.'
Listen to this episode and hear about how other peoples opinions are formed & how to stop worrying about it & finally stop giving a f**k what other people think of you.
At the end of this episode I am giving you 6 journal prompts to take this work even deeper.
And when you're ready to take this work to the next level, book your free 60 minute call with me HERE.
BONUS EPISODE - A conversation with my friend Tammy Helfirch - Life & Mindset
This is such a fun treat to be able to share with you all today!
My friend, colleague & fellow Life Coach, Tammy Helfich is an absolute badass in her life & business and we got together to talk about some of our own personal obstacles & how we have overcome them.
Tammy & I spent the last 6 months together in the Confident Coaches Mastermind with Amy Latta & we have both experienced a lot of growth during this time.
In this episode we talk about doing things the right way, comparing ourselves to others, beating ourselves up and so much more...
You can connect with Tammy on her website and Instagram and be sure to go check out her podcast too, Intentional Life with Tammy Helfrich.
And if you want to connect with me be sure to book in for a free consult call with me HERE.
EPISODE #7 - Get comfortable being uncomfortable
Everything we want is on the other side of discomfort otherwise we would already have it.
Think about it for a minute - what is it that you most want & why is it that you don't have it?
For example, if you want to make more money it will require you to get outside your comfort zone in order to do it & it's easier to avoid doing that...
In this episode I am talking about my current experience smack bang in the middle of discomfort & the tools I am using to navigate my way through it.
We explore why we either do or don't want to get outside our comfort zones & the benefits of both sides.
As always I am giving you actionable tips & tools to use in your own life & at the end I walk you briefly though how to actually feel & process an emotion (instead of binging Netflix & eating a packet of chocolate biscuits only to feel worse later!)...